THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS
Updated: Aug 22, 2021
YOU HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO FORGIVE
"Love is the bridge between you and everything"
RELEASE THE PAST AND FORGIVE EVERYONE
Before we can work on the future, we need to fix the past.
Wow, forgiveness, this is a huge one for me. From the minute I met my husband, my mother-in-law hated me. He was her first son, her greatest pride. I have a very sweet nature yet deep down there is a warrior that lives inside. She comes out every now and then when I need to call her forward. When my mother-in-law heard that her son proposed to me, she took off her gloves and she was very verbally and mentally abusive towards me. We owned a business and I had to work with her every now and then. She criticized everything I did, every move I made and even had something to say about the way I wore my hair. I would usually ride her home because I left early to go home and take care of the children. On the way, she would often take the opportunity to verbally abuse me even more severely since no one was there to hear. I remember many occasions that I had trouble seeing the road because I was crying. When she was going to hit me hard, she always started with, “Don’t make mad ,but” in her best English (her first language is Italian) and I knew after the word “but”, it was going to be a doozy. Even though I braced myself it always hurt. On one occasion, she told me , “Don’t make mad, but Giorgio married the wrong sister. He should have married Cindy because she makes more money.” I mean, really? Who says that? I only put up with it out of respect to my husband because I didn’t want to put him in the middle. And because I didn’t even have the slightest clue what self-love was at that time. Eventually, my husband saw it too and told her to just stop, but I was already at the point that I couldn’t go into the business anymore because I knew she would never fully change. At that point, I decided to love myself and not spend more time than I had to around her. I have forgiven her, but I will never have a relationship with her. But that’s ok, because we have free will to choose who we want to have present in our lives. I have forgiven myself for giving her my power and allowing her to make me cry. She will never change, but she will never have that power over me again. I have learned to love myself. I have learned to be indifferent toward anything she has to say to me. That’s my balance. Since then I have learned to practice forgiveness in all areas of my life.
"Ignore those who make you feel fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death"
FROM DIS-EASE TO DISEASE
Disease is nothing more than restricted energy flow in the body. But how did the energy get restricted in the first place?
We are spiritual beings here to have a human experience, but sometimes we get more than we signed up for and the experiences are traumatic to us in some way. We react to that trauma with emotion. Often we do not reconcile with the trauma, but bury it deep within or relive it in our minds or talk about it with others and live that same emotion over and over again, creating a feeling of dis-ease. In order to heal, we need to clear that emotion before it causes a blockage in our body. That blockage, if not cleared, becomes a disease. Have you ever gone to the doctor with a chronic issue and he/she can’t find anything wrong with you, but you know the symptoms are very real. The problem is that through the imaging available to doctors, energy blockages don’t show up. The linear thinking taught in medical schools doesn't prepare the doctor to handle things they cannot see or fix with a pill. So, you are sent home with the same problem and a prescription for anti anxiety medication, because according to the doctor, it must all be in your head. And this is causing your anxiety. The problem is, the medication is doing more harm and no good. The real issue is left untreated. The truth is that you must face what is causing your disease or pain in the first place. Reiki, color therapy, sound therapy, and other forms of energy medicine are ways to help release blockages, but getting to the “root” of the issue and resolving it will help to be certain the blockages won't come back. What is keeping you in a state of fight or flight and causing you pain? Energy workers are able to help you work to get to the root cause. Once these issues are brought into the light, you can begin to heal through forgiveness.
“You must walk through the tunnel, before you can see the light at the end of the tunnel”
Jacob Lieberman, O.D., Ph.D. “Light, Medicine of the Future”
A friend of mine shared the following sentences, which are great mantras to use when practicing forgiveness:
I free everyone in my life from old and past hurts.
They are free and I am free to move into a new and glorious experience.
Before I get into this next section, let me start with a disclaimer. My intention is not to offend anyone, but to be completely honest and give you an opportunity to look at your life in a completely honest way. My intention is for you to notice the feelings you get when I say certain things and learn to harness those feelings and raise your vibration until you get to the point of standing in perfect balance of the feelings and listening to the words for what they are and not give more value to them than they deserve. I know that is easier said than done, but when you are conscious of your reactions, you will be able to gauge if you are simply reacting or listening with awareness to what is being said. It's almost like you’re looking at yourself from someone else's perspective, it will become second nature. That’s called transcending the Maya.
WHY DO WE HOLD ONTO GRUDGES, RESENTMENTS, ANGER AND SO ON?
Dr. Bruce Lipton, a pioneer in stem cell research, is in advocate for the field of Epigenetics. Translated, that literally means above genetics. We are more than our genes. How exciting!
We are so much more powerful than we were taught. We have the power to heal ourselves. The future of medicine is now my friends. Suffering is about to end and together we will step into our space of joy!
"The wound is the place where the light enters you"
Let me explain this further.
Do you think that your entire life is defined by what you did in the past, things that happened to you in your past?
Well, let me first start by saying, it is, if you want it to be. That’s right, it is your choice. You have free will. But I will tell you, that you can also choose to live in constant joy if you want to.
Sure, there may have been poor choices or traumas that occurred, but those things happen to shape us and help us achieve spiritual growth. We can hold onto things and relive them over and over, and feel the same negative emotion over and over, because as long as we do that, they might as well be happening right now. Because you are recreating it right now by thinking about it or talking about it. But even worse, if we have buried it deep and compartmentalized it, we are well on our way to disease if it hasn't already manifested itself. I am not trying to be insensitive to anyone’s trauma, I am only trying to help heal a trauma that is preventing you from living your best life possible. Holding onto traumas do not serve your highest good. I doesn't serve you to hold onto anything that doesn’t bring you joy. Forgive the situation and or person and walk forward on the path, don’t remain in a constant loop of unhappiness. And most importantly, forgive yourself!
Ask yourself these questions.
How does it serve me to hold onto regret?
How does it serve me to hold onto fear?
How does it serve me to hold onto anger?
How does it serve me to hold onto traumatic events in my life?
How does holding onto any lower emotion (anger, fear, jealousy, hate, etc.) serve me?
"Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?"
Truthfully, it doesn’t serve us at all. All we are doing is holding ourselves in a state of lower vibration. By holding ourselves in this state of lower vibration, we only attract more of the same to us. These lower vibrations also help us create energy blocks in our body that eventually, if not healed, will cause disease. Scientists have proven that we store emotions in our genes through the study of epigenetics. They have found our DNA is ultimately affected by emotions we hold on to, which means we pass our unresolved issues onto our children to carry on. That is why it is so important to heal, forgive and raise our emotions to the highest possible frequency.
Love yourself...Choose only to live in the highest emotions and you will live a life of joy!
I Love you,